Oh So many NOPE ass NOPES
Because I am a hair stylist it just wouldn’t be right for me not to mention the Death of a major contributor to the Barber/Beauty industry.
On October 3rd Comer Cottrell passed away. The name may not sound very familiar but I’m sure you are very familiar with his hair care invention. Mr. Cottrell is the man who presented the world the Jheri Curl.
A family spokeswoman tells us that Mr. Cottrell, who was 82 years old, died in his home in Plano Texas.
Mr. Cottrell was the founder of Pro-Line Corp. in downtown Los Angeles in 1970. His intent was to provide more hair care options to black servicemen…Spawning the Pro-Line Curly Kit.
The initial invention, by Mr. Jheri Redding, was only available in Salons and Barber shops and could run a patron up-wards to $300…Mr. Cottrell created the “Home kit”, and monopolized by selling the kits in for $8 to Shops and drug stores.
The style was then popularized by a mass of black stars/entertainers and of course the movie Coming To America…
In memory of Mr. Cottrell, BuzzFeed Staffer, Tracy Clayton, presents us with
27 Of The Most Important Jheri Curls In History
Original post can be found at BuzzFeed.com
Jheri Curl from Hollywood Shuffle
Evelyn “Champagne” King
The Super Curl couple
Everybody in Ready For The World
Randy Watson (and some of the members of Sexual Chocolate)
Countess Vaughn as Alexandria DeWitt on 227
So many of the Jacksons
An Honorable Mention…The couch from Coming To America
On an interview Thursday with Philadelphia radio host Anthony Garano, ex-NBA all star Charles Barkley responded to the rumors over Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson’s receiving criticism over not being “black enough” from some of his teammates. He then addressed a larger issue within the black community, one Barkley described as a “dirty, dark secret.”
His comments are not politically correct, in any way, and therefore deserve reprinting in full:
As I tell my white friends, we as black people, we’re never going to be successful, not because of you white people, but because of other black people. When you’re black, you have to deal with so much crap in your life from other black people. It’s a—It’s a dirty, dark secret; I’m glad it’s coming out. It comes out every few years. I wrote a big chapter in my book about it, to be honest with you.
I said, you know, when young black kids, you know, when they do well in school, the loser kids tell them, ‘Oh, you’re acting white.’ The kids who speak intelligently—
They tell them, ‘You’re acting white.’ So it’s a dirty, dark secret in the black community.
One of the reasons we’re never going to be successful as a whole, because of other black people. And for some reason we are brainwashed to think, if you’re not a thug or an idiot, you’re not black enough. If you go to school, make good grades, speak intelligent, and don’t break the law, you’re not a good black person. And it’s a dirty, dark secret, Anthony.
Most, I—I heard Stephen A. [Smith] talkin about it, and it, listen, I hate to bring white people into our crap, but as a black person, we all go through it when you’re successful. Uh, you know it’s like one of the reasons, you know, one of the reasons a lot of black players go broke is because when you’re successful your friends say to you, ‘Oh, you ain’t cool. You ain’t down with us anymore.’
And you end up giving up all your money to these damn losers, and you end up broke again.
But it’s a dirty, dark secret in the black community. There are a lot of black people who are unintelligent, who don’t have, uh, success. It’s best to knock a successful black person down because they’re intelligent, they speak well, they do well in school, and they’re successful. And they don’t..if you think about it—
Anthony Gargano: Well it’s crabs in a barrel, right?
It’s crabs in a barrel. The thing that’s hap—we’re the only race that tell people if you don’t have street cred, with like, that means you been arrested—
Like, like that’s a compliment. We’re the only ethnic group who say, ‘Hey, if you go to jail, it gives you street cred.’ It’s just typical BS that goes on when you’re black, man. But don’t waste a lot of time on it please.
This is not something everyone would have the courage to say and he’s likely to get some heat for doing so. BUT the big question: Is he right?
I’m not taking a jab at Ms. Minaj…and I will keep it as respectful as possible…
I recently read an article at LoveBScott.com (I love me some B Scott aka Love Muffin), titled ‘Nicki Minaj is a Cheeky Genius for GQ, Talks women taking back control (Read the full article here). The article didn’t really touch on anything mind blowing or, for lack of better words, interesting about Ms. Minaj and her personal views. It was just a snip of an article written about her in GQ magazine…but one thing in the article that stuck out for me was a direct quote from her.
In the mag, Nicki talks about her “Anaconda” video — saying that she sees it as a normal video being about what girls do. She takes it a step further, saying there are scenes in the video that represent women taking back their power and being in control.
I don’t know what there is to really talk about… I’m being serious. I just see the video as being a normal video. I think the video is about what girls do. Girls love being with other girls, and when you go back to us being younger, we would have slumber parties and we’d be dancing with our friends. (Source http://www.lovebscott.com/news/nicki-minaj-is-a-cheeky-genius-for-gq-talks-women-taking-back-control-photos)
Let me make this as clear as possible. I have not and will NEVER give an entertainer the responsibility of being a good role model for my child. I teach my daughter at home that she is more than her looks…I also make it my duty to encourage her into greatness…I don’t shield my daughter from the world, but I also don’t let her explore it without showing her the consequences of the different paths she could possibly take.
I don’t know Ms. Minaj from Adam…The only thing I know about her is what is presented in her public persona…this goes towards all of these young female entertainers…Miley Cyrus, Rihanna, Taylor Swift, Iggy Azalea, Lady Gaga…etc . No one, but those close to you, know you outside of what you present us with…so don’t take this as a personal attack towards YOU, take it as an attack towards the excuses you and other celebrities make.
After reading Ms. Minaj’s words I had to go and watch that video (Click here for Video)…I watched it a few times, just to make sure I didn’t miss something…or misinterpret something…What I found to be clear was this:
- The video tip toes the lines of sheer hilarity and completely gross
- I will NEVER let my daughter watch it (or any other music video made by a female entertainer under the age of 50) ever again
- There was absolutely nothing about the anaconda video that remotely suggest ‘…being younger, we would have slumber parties…dancing with our friends…’
Just cause you laying on the floor does not mean it counts as a slumber party…IJS
It makes my stomach turn a little when I see these entertainer do these ridiculous things and then try and pass them off as being, somehow “Okay”…How “normal” is it to see an 11 or 12 year old girl bent over and shaking her pre-pubescent ass? I for one don’t want my daughter and her little friends simulating sex while donning hot pants and tube tops…
it’s my opinion that the video does not say or show anything about empowering females…and whatever (if there really was one) empowerment message that was supposed to be delivered…I am pretty certain it was cut short by girls wearing little to no close and their legs spread wide open, open for the world to objectify the female figure.
If you want to put yourself out there in the manner that you do, be my guest. I could care less about how you choose to live your life…but don’t try and tell the world that what you do is “normal”…and don’t make the attempt to pass it off as something innocent little girls can and should be doing.
You don’t have to be a role model…And no one is giving you that responsibility…You are not responsible for setting the positive example for anyone’s child(ren)…But don’t sit up here and compare your lewd behaviour to that of an innocent child, who should be the very last person in your audience…the very last person you should be comparing yourself to (and vice versa).
If I ever hear the words “…Like Nicki Minaj…” come out of my daughter’s mouth, while she is describing something has done or wants to do I will slap all of the pigment from her skin…
And with that said…How about people stop making excuses for their BS and just be real.
Being a parent is not an easy job…being a single parent…well, being a single parent fcuking sucks donkey ba11s! Especially, when you make the attempt to start dating.
But why does the world seem to make single parents feel as if they are not worthy of dating with standards, just because they have children. It’s as if there has been some unwritten rule that just because an individual has a child(ren) that somehow their self-worth is decidedly lower than that of an individual of the same age, social, and economic standing, but has no children. The single parent is supposed to not have high expectation in a potential mate because, well because you have already established a family circle without them being involved…
If anything a single parent should have even higher standards, as far as a potential mate is concerned. You have to be really careful who you decide to bring around your children because not everyone has your (or their) best interest at heart. To be honest with you people now days don’t give a fluff about anyone other than themselves…and we hear so many heart wrenching stories about how boyfriends, girlfriends, and step-parents are harming little children.
Here’s the thing…When it comes to being a single parent the first priority is and will always be what is best for the child…This means that any potential mate(s) will have to find a fit within the circle.
Dating a single parent has its ups and downs just like any other venture one sets forth to pursue…So here are 5 pointers for dating a single parent:
- You have to have patience
I have never known a single parent who wasn’t dealing with dual identities. On one hand they have to be a parent, the example for the kids, chauffer, chef, etc. etc…but on the other hand they have to become a single entity out mixing and mingling in the adult world. Unless he or she is being a controlling butt nugget or purposefully trying you in some way, then you have to be patient while he/she is adjusting from one identity to the other (This is very important for a newly single parent)/
- The Ex (kids’ father/mother) is going to be around
Don’t let the Ex control your relationship. They are going to be around, like it or not…But there is no need for any jealous feelings or worry. Now if your mate and their Ex has just recently broken up, like any other breakup, there are probably going to be some harbored feelings…In this case the thing you really have to watch for is how strongly their feelings are towards the Ex and if they are completely over the relationship. If you have concerns the best thing to do is to address them directly and with tact and not make accusations. Chances are you could be just paranoid…It’s going to be awkward at first because essentially you are going to be “The third wheel” of sorts.
- Dating Single Parents is not a Mattel creation…Don’t play games
A single parent has a lot to deal with and playing games with a romantic relationship is not on the daily ToDo list. Chances are you are going to get yourself dumped for being a source of unwanted/unnecessary drama. Playing hard to get or thinking you are some sort of “Player” in the game of love…basically trying to manipulate time that could be well spent on more important things, is a NoGo.
- Do, don’t just say
To a single parent your words are pretty…but they mean absolutely nothing when your actions don’t match. Don’t just say you’re an honest person, be honest…don’t just talk about goals and dreams, take the steps to accomplishing them…Before I had my daughter, if a guy took me to a fancy dinner I was impressed…But now, the mere sight of a great guy taking my garbage out, or clearing the table after dinner works wonders…It’s the little things that count for a single parent…Bring her a box of her favorite cupcakes, or surprise him at home with dinner for everyone so he doesn’t have to cook after a long day of work…Step up and help out…Major cool points.
- Single Parents aren’t looking for Super Heroes
It is too easy to assume that a single parent is looking for a long term relationship from the moment you exchange contact information…Some people make this assumption and feel that the single parent is going to be clingy and in some sort of rush. In reality, this couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth of the matter is that a single parent won’t be quick to jump into a relationship or settling down until they are incredibly sure of your potential as a life partner…
Just because a person is a single parent doesn’t mean they are desperate for a mate. Nor are they in a hurry to jump head first into a relationship.
A single parent wants a partner who compliments, the values already established, not completes the family circle…
As if you needed another reason to cuddle.